I will admit I don’t have a very diverse church background. I’ve only regularly attended five different churches in my short lifetime thus far. One was a Lutheran church when I was a very young child, one was just a simple Evangelical church when I was an adolescent, two have been “non-denominational, and the one I attend now is borderline “non”, but more closely aligns with the SBC (Southern Baptist Convention). It’s by far the smallest one I’ve ever been to.
The largest one I’ve attended was living in Branson. It’s where I grew the most spiritually and I definitely learned a lot of practical life lessons while I was there. When I moved back to my home town, I went back to the church I had been attending before I moved. One day I was having lunch with one of the leaders there and he asked me about attending church there in Branson. I don’t remember much at all about that conversation, but I do remember specifically telling him, “They don’t play church.”
I might as well say this now, I am not against the local Church. I think it’s a scriptural thing that we meet together locally, with other believers. We need to fellowship, and hear the word preached. These are good things. Playing church is not.
So what do I mean when I say “playing church”? You should have a pretty good idea what it means. Children like to play dress up. Children like to play make believe. Children like to play hide and go seek. A lot of Christians like to play church. Make sense now?
I know that sounds like a harsh rebuke, but it’s the truth nonetheless. However, I’m not referring to the group of people you think. Many people go to church simply because it’s “what you do on Sunday” or on major holidays. Many go to simply soothe their conscience because of how they lived the previous week. I can get past that type of hypocrisy. The ones I’m talking about are the real holy rollers. They, more often than not, play church. Church for them is generally a social gathering under the disguise of religion.
You see, these people claim to know the word. They don’t tell you that you have to be there every service, but it’s implied. They shift their duty of service to missionaries overseas so they don’t have to get their hands dirty locally. They all walk and talk like each other. Their “small groups” only contain members of their own church. It’s all about attendance and retention. They are more internally minded. Everything just seems picture perfect. They are so preoccupied with “doing church” that they neglect BEING the church.
Be honest with yourself as a leader or a general “member” of a local church. Do the people around your table all walk and talk like you? Are you all somehow connected relationally or geographically? Does your leadership table generally answer questions how you want to hear them? How challenged are you by those closest to you? Are you easily offended or defensive of someone who shares different views than you? How often do you share your platform with someone of a different background/church affiliation? Are the decisions you make conceding change in your church affected at all by trying to make the most people happy?
Those questions should reveal some indication if you’re playing church. The things I want to touch on from here on out are obviously found in scripture, but are hardly ever discussed or (I doubt very much) put into practice. Now, I realize that some of those things that the various writers said to the Churches of their time were specific to that particular group of people at that time. However, there are many things that are applicable to the way we should be doing church today. I’m going to go through a few things and you tell me if you’ve ever seen these things happen in a Church today.
- 1 Timothy 5:20 – Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.
When was the last time the leader of your church stood behind the pulpit, pointed the finger at someone, and called out their sin before the entire congregation. Yet ins’t that a pretty clear instruction of what Paul is suggesting to Timothy? Does this passage mention that should happen in a church? Not specially, but it doesn’t have to. Paul had trained up Timothy to be a leader, one who Paul even instructs on how to handle an Elder in need of rebuke. I believe that it’s applicable to how the Church should operate. Now, I’m not saying that every week, the leader of the Church should spend an hour rebuking every person in the congregation for every little thing. There is a balance here. I believe that there would be occasions for it. Sometimes people need to be called out on their sin publicly. It’s too easy to sit behind closed doors in a “counseling” session and act like you’re sorrowful and repentant. You can pull the wool over one person’s eyes, but it’s little more difficult to do so in front of a room full of your peers. Some people are only sorry if they get caught.
- Matthew 18:15-17 – Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother. But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established. And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.
Ok, this is pretty heavy too. Here, Jesus is talking about something that happened between two believers. I don’t think anyone would do any of this. What I want to focus on is “tell it to the church”. It does NOT say “tell it to the pastor behind closed doors”. Sorry folks, when Jesus says the church, he means in front of all. That is similar to what Paul told Timothy. What’s even more powerful, Jesus tells you how that person should be treated if he doesn’t listen! Tell me the last time a “church” did that. Hmmm…I’m wiling to bet never. You realize this statement is coming off the heels of when Jesus told us what to do if our hand or eye offend us. Cut it off. Not literally, but we are to deal with sin swiftly and severely. Which is exactly how He told us how to deal with a stubborn offender.
- 1 Corinthians 5:1;5;11 – It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father’s wife…5 To deliver such an one unto Satan for the destruction of the flesh, that the spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus.…11 But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolator, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.
I know I’ve chopped together some scripture, but go read the entire chapter for yourself and you will see I’m not taking things out of context. First, Paul says to basically excommunicate the person who was committing fornication with his stepmother (disturbing, I know). There are things that Paul has no tolerance for. We should be the same, despite the fact the world wants us to tolerate everything. What’s more shocking to me is that in verse 11, Paul tells us not to associate those whom are called BROTHERS that are indulging in sin. If someone is a “brother”, that means they are in Christ. That’s right. Those who have believed that Jesus was raised from the dead and have confessed him as Lord. We are to cut them off from fellowship. We don’t. We coddle them. We hold their hand. We rub their back and say everything is going to be ok. Can’t find that in the Bible. Now this example that Paul gave was very specific to the Church at Corinth, but it’s still a clear guideline of how to deal with certain behavior.
Before you start throwing other scriptures at me in an attempt to discredit or prove me wrong, I’ll go ahead and give you one: 1 Peter 4:8 – And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins. That’s all great and everything until you look up the word “cover” and it’s the same in Matthew 10:26. Go ahead and see for yourself.
Honestly, it doesn’t matter what scripture you try to use, it doesn’t change the truth of the ones I’ve presented. Unless you’re comparing New Testament scriptures to Old Testament ones, scriptures don’t necessarily cancel or negate each other. Besides, these are instructions to the Church as a whole, so these scriptures need to be taken literally. Am I saying that they need to be carried out every single time Christians meet for fellowship and breaking of bread? No, but they can’t be ignored either. I’m not ruling out compassion, sympathy, or charity. I totally believe there is a balance to the scriptures.
I realize that this may come off as harsh, but it’s been far too long since the Church has acted like the Church. Smith Wigglesworth comes to mind quite often when I consider how the Bride of Christ has waned. I say this because too many local gatherings have become like rock concerts and social gatherings that are hardly distinguishable from their pagan counterparts. Should we have fun in Church? At times, yes. Should we go all out in praising God during Church? Sure thing. Yet what has happened is that now if we dare present a challenging message or something that reveals our sin, people walk away. Too many people want something to make them feel good no matter what and don’t you dare peek into my private life. Smith knew the value of tough love, but tough love is only love if it’s spoken in sincere truth.
It’s sad for me to think that if we did any of the things that the Bible instructs, people would walk out by the droves, even if you showed them multiple scriptures to back it up. Why? People don’t want the Bible to get in the way of how they act or what they believe. People want to play church.
One of my top 5 favorite scriptures is found in Galatians 4:16:
Am I therefore become your enemy because I tell you the truth?
I do not think you understand the power that is contained in that question. In Galatians 3:1, Paul basically called the church in Galatia stupid for how they were thinking and behaving. Our current dictionary defines foolish as someone lacking good sense or judgement. First can you imagine how a local church would act if the leader got up and accused the congregation of being foolish? Telling them they are being stupid? We can’t because no one would dare do it. Do you know what that equates to? The leader don’t love them enough. That’s right, if you don’t tell someone the truth, you don’t love them enough. Paul loved the church at Galatia enough to risk losing them. That’s what’s so powerful about that scripture above. Love will risk all.
Paul risked everything he was to the Galatians because he loved them. He risked them alienating him, hating him, because he told them the truth. You realize the model Paul was using…the same one as Jesus. Jesus risked all not only for us, but for the Jews when He was on the earth. He told people the truth no matter what it cost Him. He lost some of his own followers because of the truth He presented.
What are we willing to risk for the truth? How strong is our love for others? Do we love others enough to tell them the truth or do we “love them too much” to tell them the truth? If your answer is the latter, then you really don’t love them at all.
In these dark times, however no darker than before, we must ask ourselves some questions: What are we willing to risk to really be the church? To actually act like the church? The answer to those questions will either continue to withhold or release the power of God to bring Kingdom changes to this earth and usher in the second coming of our Lord Jesus.
Family can sometimes be the most difficult people to deal with. As the body of Christ, and members in particular, whether Baptists, Pentecostals, Charismatics, Catholics, etc., if Jesus is our Lord, then we are all connected – we are all brothers and sisters in Christ. We are all part of the same family. We are all to love one another as Jesus loved us. He loved people enough to tell them the truth regardless of what it cost Him. Paul did the same. Isn’t it time we followed suit?
Bride, it’s time to get off the merry-go-round, hop off the swing, and make it your last trip down the slide. Tear down the fences. Grab the dozer and the backhoe. Dig like you’ve never dug. Lay the foundation and begin to build the Church the way it was intended.